One Session, One Realization: When Scrolling Replaces Living

I recently had a session with a client who confided in me that she spends a significant amount of time on social media over the weekends. She had come to realize that this habit no longer felt good and that she was dealing with a form of dependency. She couldn’t imagine going even a single day without Facebook, without scrolling.

Every Saturday and Sunday morning, right after breakfast, she would open her laptop – and two to three hours would pass in what felt like moments, only to realize it was nearly lunchtime.

As she described her weekend routine, a mix of sadness and frustration spread across her face. She was pouring her attention and energy into strangers—people she had never met—watching “funny videos” that gave her a short-lived sense of amusement but nothing of lasting value.

When we dug deeper, she admitted that this mindless scrolling was filling a void – an emptiness she felt in certain parts of her life. I deeply empathized with her. I, too, have experienced what it’s like to avoid facing a problem by distracting myself with anything else… just to not feel the discomfort.

Because truly addressing a problem takes effort:

• First, becoming aware that the problem even exists
• Then, deciding to do something about it
• Summoning the courage to act (COURAGE – when you choose yourself)
• And often – finding the support of someone who won’t judge, criticize, or offer unsolicited advice (Coaching consultation)

Our conversation continued, and through the right questions, I gently guided her toward realizing that every situation has a solution.

At one point, something clicked. She suddenly recognized that her life wasn’t as empty as she’d thought. She had friends, passions, hobbies, and goals – she just hadn’t had the time (or the energy) to pursue them because of this draining habit. She began listing ways she could use those three hours more meaningfully. I saw a spark in her eyes – hope and excitement had returned.

By the end of our 50-minute session, she had crafted a clear plan and timeline that both motivated and held her accountable. The very next morning, she reached out again to thank me. She shared that our conversation had brought up even more thoughts and realizations that kept her reflecting… The seed had been planted. 🌱

I don’t have a right to judge anyone’s screen time habits. Honestly, I believe many people are quietly battling something similar. What matters most is what you take away from this story.

I simply want to highlight how crucial self-awareness and self-care are. Don’t settle for a life that only feels “okay.” Stop for a moment and ask yourself:

Where is my attention going each day?
Because wherever your attention goes—your energy flows.

If something in your life feels off, take a moment to explore it. You can check out my free e-book (Free e-book) – it’s a helpful guide to peek beneath the surface. And if you prefer more personal, in-depth support, I’d be happy to explore it with you during a one-on-one consultation. (Coaching consultation).

REMEMBER: ATTENTION = ENERGY.

Note: This article was published with the client’s full consent.